It’s been a devastatingly awful week. A dear friend of mine has a lovely 25 year old daughter, Jane. Eight months ago she started going out with her first serious boyfriend Charles, a very nice young man of 30 years old, she was welcomed into their family, he was welcomed into hers and they recently moved in together and started talking about an engagement, which everyone was delighted about.
On Monday night of this week Jane was partially woken during the night by Charles crying out in his sleep, she thought he was just having a bad dream. A few hours later when she woke up he was rasping and she couldn’t bring him round. She immediately called the Emergency Services, who talked her through CPR, when the Paramedics arrived it took and hour to stabilise him, the Air Ambulance helicopter was sent, but couldn’t land, so the Paramedics transported him to the nearest landing site, but his heart arrested twice more on route and he wasn’t stable enough to be transferred into the helicopter. He was taken to the Hospital and placed on life support. Sadly he did not have any brain function due to being too long without oxygen, he passed away yesterday. The Doctors believe he actually died in his sleep before Jane even started the CPR, so he would not have known anything about it, some cold comfort
Everybody has been in shocked disbelief that this could happen to a young, fit man, with no history of serious illness.
For me it has raised my awareness of ones mortality, the fear that we could just die in our sleep and life would just, simply, end. It’s the feeling of sheer helplessness, no control over what may actually happen, it’s a black hole we should not look down into, no good comes of living in this grip of fear, but just for a while this week, many of us who knew Charles, have peeked over the edge of that hole.
Fly high Charles and keep an eye on us all down here.
This is so sad. Cannot imagine what that young girl Jane must be feeling. And the young man Charles parents must be so devastated.
Life is indeed so fragile.
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Indeed, we have to embrace every single day x
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That is SO kind Vicklea, I really appreciate it! x
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How awful and shocking. I can’t imagine how you are all feeling.
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So sorry to read this sad news 😢 Life can be so cruel
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Fly High Charles May Rest in Right Hands of Jesus Christ,Above All Love each other Deeply,because Love Covers over a Multitudes of Sin.
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I’m so sorry to read about what happened. That must have been very frightening for Jane. ❤ I hope she has lots of support and hugs all around her. ❤
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Oh yes, very much so x
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the end here
is not only
a death
but a separation
of spirit from body
sad to say
come what may
our day too will
come
rip
son
and remember
to include
us in your holy litany
for the living
a miracle
a day will suffice!
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Thank you for that utahan
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How terribly sad 😢
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His loved ones must be devastated. Praying for them.
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As am I Ruth x
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A very sad story indeed.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Life is fragile, so we need to live every moment as if it may be the last one. God bless you and your family.
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So very sorry for your friend and her family. There is so much we do not understand in this life. I do know that God hears our every prayer, and cares about our every tear. Faith gives us the assurance that we do not have to know all things. We must trust God that in His great love and mercy, we can bear all things because He gives us strength. Your post reminds us that every day is a gift to be cherished…there are no ‘ordinary’ days. Every day matters!
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Indeed, thank you so much Linda.
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This is unbelievable,at times i do pause to ask why did things happen the way they did….so many things we didn’t have an answer for.life at some time could be mystery.
May good God give the family of the departed and Jane the power to bear this lost.
Life could be fragile indeed…
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Thank you so much x
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You are most welcome
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WOW!!! So sorry.
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A very heartfelt story. I pray for God’s healing grace for the family. I know everything has a reason though, it hurts so much.
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Thank you so much.
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You’re much welcome!
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Sad story Lily, especially concerning one so young. Personally I’m no so bothered about my own mortality (I’m old anyway) but that of friends and family.
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Thinking of you and yours. So sad
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Thank you lovely x
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My heart breaks for them. 🙏🏻
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Very sad my dear friend.
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What a sad story. We should be grateful every day we have on earth
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That is so very true Paola, it certainly is a sharp reminder!
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Reblogged this on WORLD OF CREATIVITY.
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so very kind Chinedu x
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u are welcome
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nice work
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Thank you!
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Wow. I’m terribly sorry to hear this. We really never know when it’s time for us to leave. I do hope Jane is doing well.
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Thank you K E, yes, actually she is doing very well, thank goodness x
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Lilly I am so very sorry. Your post made me cry. I can’t imagine the devastation everyone involved must be feeling. Saying prayers for all those feeling this loss. Take care. Love ❤️ Joni
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awe bless you Joni, thank you xx
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Oh my this is so sad . So devastating . Yes life is so fragile . How we take things for granted. How is his girlfriend doing? My heart is sadden for her and his family. A lesson o us all do not take nothing for granted. ❤️
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Exactly right! She is ok, but sadly the Sister had him buried in secret, so nobody could attend, utterly disgraceful and hideous behaviour, breaking everyone’s hearts all over again.
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Okay that is so unfair.. I know everyone griefs differently but this is cruel…
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Indeed, disgraceful really x
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Yes it is. Who knows the sisters intentions but still. So hurtful . Hugs
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Hi – I came here from Sylvia’s blog and wow – this is such sad news. It really shows you we do not know what a day may bring forth!
Also – there is a Christian singer I know because when I taught art classes years ago – a lot of students liked his pop hit songs – well his last album made it to one of my playlists this summer – and then in later October we heard on the news his son (21 yrs) died. No official
Report yet – but the into so 911 call was cardiac arrest – and your post reminded me of that!
And how sad this happened to this fiancé too.
Condolences to all
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So very sad isn’t it, when the young die young, thank you for your nice words x
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It actually feels not fair at times – seeing someone who was a jerk live into old age – and then someone young is robbed of that chance –
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I totally agree.
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Dat is een dram en zou niet mogen gebeuren met jonge mens.Wat erg voor zijn vriendin en de familie.Hoe moet men zo iets verwerken
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Poor Charles! How sad! Rest in peace! Hoping you’ll all come through this tough time!
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Thank you Carol Anne, it was indeed very tragic xx
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Thanks for this.
What makes living every second of life in gratitude is death. I have no expiration date stamped on my butt. Yet there is one out there. Knowing that changes the way we see and treat ourselves and others. Thanks for sharing this.
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Very true Bryan, thank you for reading x
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