The Ungrateful People

I just read a post by one of my favourite bloggers, myboyfriendisinIndia, about giving and I had a few thoughts.   I, myself, love to be kind, I would never dream of going to anyone’s home for a meal or drinks without taking something.  I make homemade breads, and my closest friends have their favourites, so I like to be thoughtful and take some to them.  I love to give flowers, I love even more to send flowers (special occasions!) and when friends have sent me them I have really loved it!.

But what about the ungrateful people?  And sometimes it can be the very people you least expect!  A couple of weeks ago a lady I have worked with for many years and get on very well with, was complaining about the state of her finger nails, I told her about a product I have used for years called ‘Nail Magic’, its quite pricey, but really excellent, at home that evening I noticed that I had a spare bottle, so I gave her it the next day, she barely even thanked me, I couldn’t believe it! Honestly, I would have been absolutely thrilled if someone gave me a bottle of it!

When we stay at my dearest and oldest friends house for the weekend, I take flowers, chocolates, wine etc…  there is no excitement from her for them, when they visit us I make a genuine effort to show how grateful I am for the lovely things she brings, I want her to know how much I appreciate the thoughtfulness.

Many folks say people never surprise them anymore, frankly people shock the crap out of me all the time! However I have always loved giving and being kind, I won’t change, there are of course people who are grateful and appreciative in my life, maybe that is why the others stand out so much!

Wishing you all good thoughts, kindness and blessings, all highly under-rated!

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35 thoughts on “The Ungrateful People

  1. What is wrong with people? A simple thank you, and acknowledgement that they appreciate what you’ve done, no matter how small a gesture would be nice. I had a friend who owned a dance/party hall and a couple of years ago there was a story in the news here locally about another party hall that had closed and had taken off with a lot of peoples money for their events. One in particular was a fourteen year old girl and her family who had paid about $7,000 for her upcoming Quincenera, or fifteen birthday celebration. Her dad came out on the news saying how sad his daughter was over not being able to celebrate and how they had struggled to pay for the event. My friend and his sister VOLUNTEERED all their services which included the venue, music, decoration and catering for this girl and her family. The event came and went, he said that they must have invited more people than they had originally planned because they ran out of everything. Mind you this was for free, at his expense because he felt bad for this little girl. He said NOT ONCE did the family EVER go and thank him, NOT ONCE! His sister said that the family knew who they were and never spoke to them, never sent a thank you card or acknowledged the good deed done by my friend his sister. This good deed cost him $12,000 not to mention clean up and money out of his pocket for such a huge gesture and for this girls family to be so blatantly ungrateful of what he had done for these strangers! He told me that saying, “no good deed goes unpunished” is so true.

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  2. Good post. 🙂

    If I may though, SOME (but certainly not all) of those people may be suffering from difficult pasts. I fall into that category. I have a hard time saying thank you because my parents and so many others held anything they did for me over my head. Genuine acts of kindness short circuit some people; they just don’t know how to react.

    The more introverted they are, the more likely this MIGHT be the case.

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  3. I certainly appreciate you!!!!!!

    I was raised like you as well. Sadly though, there are way too many people today who do not appreciate anything or anyone. I wish i could say avoid them all, bus they there are too many to avoid. Just keep being the wonderful,giving, loving person you are. It’s there problem, not yours. You are a rare gem that shine brightly my friend. Don;t stop shining that light.

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  4. This reminds me of a friend. Her birthday is on Christmas day and every year for 40 years I have sent her a birthday and Christmas card. One year she looked at me and said why do you do that just write happy birthday on my Christmas card like everybody else does. I said because I’m not like everybody else….I still send it. Wow I couldn’t believe she said that.

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  5. A little graciousness and appreciation goes a long way. Unfortunately, civility and gratitude seems to be a dwindling commodity when we are out and about. I guess the lady with the nail product is either just clueless or she believes herself entitled. Just keep smiling and don’t change…people like you make this world a better place!

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  6. Flowers are my fave gifts, either to give or to receive, just like you. I like nail magic too and I know its a great product that I finished recently. Sorry to hear about this person. Must be very miserable to recognize the blessings around her. You are amazing and the world needs more people like you

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  7. Coming from a European background but born in Australia, I always have and still do bring wine and chocolates (or a dessert), if I’m going to someone’s place for dinner. If it’s a quick visit, I still bring something and would be mortified going to someone’s place empty handed.

    My partner’s mother on the other hand, won’t even lift a finger to make you a cup of tea when you visit her in her home – even when she knows you’ve had a long-haul flight from Australia to the UK! She never dreams of taking anything to her daughter’s place even when invited around for Christmas lunch, which typically is a feast until the evening – not even a bottle of wine or flowers. I just can’t get my head around the selfishness of some people…

    Many thanks for stopping by my Travel and Photography blog.

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  8. I have learned that there are some people that no matter what you do they seem unappreciative. It could be jealousy or a number of other things, as one never really knows. I am sure you are familiar with this verse in the bible: 2 Corinthians 9:6-7 6 The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully [a] will also reap bountifully. 7 Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. I think if it were me I would just do what you feel like you really want to and forget the rest, including any thanks or hugs. It is likely this will never come from that individual. For at least ten years when my in-laws were coming to visit I would make the guest room as comfortable as I could, extra cleaning, fresh flowers and a sweet wrapped gift by the bed for my mother-in-law. My husband and I would run out to the car and get their little suitcases they had packed for the weekend and truly were so happy to see them. We would asked them what they wanted to do and oblige their every request. We did this happily. Then we always took them out to one of our favorite places to dine in Seattle, our treat of course. When we would go to visit them, they would not even bother to come to the door when we would knock, instead waiting for us to come on in. My father-in-law often would wait ten minutes before even bothering to come upstairs to greet us. I continued my thoughtful practices and tried to forgive her hurtful ways even though I didn’t understand how someone could be so heartless. They don’t visit anymore because they are old but when we come to see them it is the same. So some people never change. I think we have to do what our hearts tell us to do and not expect anything. I know it hurts and I am sorry your friends have hurt your feelings. However, just keep being the special loving person you are and try not to expect anything in return. Then when someone shows thoughtfulness in return you will feel blessed. PS I love your expression in one of your post, cottoning on… I had never heard that before but it is a great expression

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    1. Thanks you so much for taking the time to send such a thoughtful reply! you certainly hit the nail on the head! No matter what, I do my best to be kind always, and now at my age I just drop people if they are mean or unkind to me, it’s so much easier than being stressed over things you can’t change! nice to meet you x

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      1. Nice to meet you too. Making homemade bread for people is really a task filled with love and kindness. I am with you, as I too have started to spend less time with those folks who don’t show kindness or even basic hospitality to me or my sweet husband. Life is too short! God Bless You and your sweet heart!

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  9. Oh Lilly.
    I know that feeling.
    Common sense it ua to express gratitude or smile back in appreciation when words fail.
    I know this feeling all to well.
    I pasted pics on expectation.
    I taught myself now not tp expect. Ive also started holding back on my heartfelt generosity.
    Some people are just users, sadly.

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  10. I’m the same way you are. I love going out of my way to surprise people – or just for example find the perfect christmas gift and o lot of times I feel so disappointed when they can’t even throw a thank you in my direction. And then again I think they don’t even realize how ungrateful and plain rude they are. So to spare me the head ache I try to keep my little somethings to my inner circle and the expectations low. Sad as it is.

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