You Never Know

Dearest Readers

I read this on a friends Facebook page and wanted to share it, because it could not be more true in this world we find ourselves in.

You never really know the true impact you have on those around you.

You never know how much someone needed that smile you gave them.

You never know how much your kindness turned someone’s entire life around.

You never know how much someone needed that long hug or deep talk.

So don’t wait to be kind. Don’t wait for someone to be kind first.

Don’t wait for better circumstances or for someone to change.

Just be kind, because you never know how much someone needs it.

Author – Nikki Banas, 3am thoughts.

The picture is of my gorgeous Mum, she sadly passed away six years ago this month, she was the epitome of kindness and beloved by all that knew her, she is missed every single day.

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I Literally Worried Myself Sick

Something very strange happened to me last Thursday. For no apparent reason at all I started to feel unwell, of course the first thing you think is … Is it the dreaded Covid? But I had absolutely none of those symptoms. My stomach was churning, I was fuzzy headed and the only way to describe me was – I didn’t feel well. I thought I must have some sort of bug, I felt nauseous so I wondered if I ate something, but I didn’t vomit or have diarrhoea. I felt like this all weekend, it did come and go, but I had no energy or the will to be bothered to do anything but sit around.

I talked to a Doctor friend of mine, she told me I was suffering from ANXIETY !

I couldn’t believe it, I have no real worries, my life is settled and good…. she went through a list of symptoms related to stress/anxiety and out of ten of them, I had seven. She explained that it can be a build up of small things and in my case my subconscious, she said I may be worried about the Covid Pandemic without even knowing it, or my elderly Father or any number of things in the back of my mind. I was totally incredulous that I could have all these physical symptoms from anxiety. My friend advised me on some breathing techniques and meditation. The next day my stomach had settled down and my head was much clearer and a week later I feel fine again. It was as if a light bulb went off, I had an explanation and now I could logic everything out.

I find it frightening that I felt so dreadful and my head caused it to myself. I subconsciously made myself ill.

To any of you wonderful readers out there who ever feel like this, please talk to someone, I am so grateful that I had someone to reach out to.

Wishing you all much happiness, stay safe and well and look after each other.

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We All Need A Smile!

Smiling Is Infectious
by Spike Milligan

Smiling is infectious,
you catch it like the flu,
When someone smiled at me today,
I started smiling too.
I passed around the corner
and someone saw my grin.
When he smiled I realised
I’d passed it on to him.
I thought about that smile,
then I realised its worth.
A single smile, just like mine
could travel round the earth.
So, if you feel a smile begin,
don’t leave it undetected.
Let’s start an epidemic quick,
and get the world infected!

So fancy passing a smile around 😊

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We Are Not In The Same Boat

I often hear “we are all in the same boat”, but that’s not exactly accurate. We are in the same storm, but not in the same boat. Your ship could be shipwrecked and mine might not be. Or vice versa.

For some, quarantine is optimal. A moment of reflection, of re-connection, easy in flip flops, with a cocktail or coffee. For others, this is a desperate financial & family crisis.

For some that live alone they’re facing endless loneliness. While for others it is peace, rest & time with their mother, father, sons & daughters.

With the increase in unemployment some are bringing in more money to their households than they were working. Others are working more hours for less money due to pay cuts or loss in sales.

Some were concerned about getting a certain chocolate for Easter while others were concerned if there would be enough bread, milk and eggs for the weekend.

Some want to go back to work because they don’t qualify for unemployment and are running out of money. Others want to kill those who break the quarantine.

Some are home spending 2-3 hours/day helping their child with online schooling while others are spending 2-3 hours/day to educate their children on top of a 10-12 hour workday.

Some have experienced the near death of the virus, some have already lost someone from it and some are not sure if their loved ones are going to make it. Others don’t believe this is a big deal.

Some have faith in God and expect miracles during this 2020. Others say the worst is yet to come.

So, friends, we are not in the same boat. We are going through a time when our perceptions and needs are completely different.

Each of us will emerge, in our own way, from this storm. It is very important to see beyond what is seen at first glance. Not just looking, actually seeing.

We are all on different ships during this storm experiencing a 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗷𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆.

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Spirit In A Crisis

Yesterday my lovely Husband told me that there was a thing going around Facebook and social media, that everyone should come outside their front door at 8pm and applaud in honour of our amazing National Health Service.  I texted my friend next door and she said she had heard about it and suggested we do it, even if we are the only ones (we live on a fairly quiet estate).  So at 8pm we poked our noses out of the garage, along with the next door neighbours and started clapping.  I looked down the street only to see everyone (except Vile Vera of course, reference earlier blogs if you want to know about her!), there were neighbours at the top of their driveways clapping their hearts out, some some in windows, people waving to each other, when I slowed clapping for a minute I realised there was clapping coming from everywhere, all the surrounding streets, it was the most amazing feeling.  The community spirit and support not only for our Health workers, but each other as friends and neighbours was fantastic.  I felt overcome all evening, I’ve never been part of something like that, I can’t describe how good it made us feel.  Apparently it will be happening every Thursday at 8pm, I will definitely be out there clapping my heart out.  I know this is happening in other European countries, so well done to you all far and wide, we will beat this Coronavirus, and Thank you to all health workers of every kind, in every country, all over the world, God bless you all.

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Just A Bump In The Road

Yesterday I had a horrible day.  A misunderstanding at the office led both of my bosses to speak to me rudely and without respect, despite my apologies, one of them went on at me until she made me cry.  The problem was easily fixable, I fixed it.  But it wasn’t their unkindness or what they said that hurt so much, it was the way they made me feel.  I cried much of the evening over being treated so harshly.

I woke up this morning with a heavy head and for the first time in fourteen years, I didn’t want to come to work.  But I of course did come to work.  I felt miserable all morning, when the bosses came in they were super pleasant to me, I am assuming that might be their guilty consciences?

When I was out at lunchtime, I opened my car door and right there on the ground was a shiny penny, it looked like brand new, I picked it up and put it in my pocket, I decided it was a sign.  So I decided to also cheer up and try and feel better.  By the afternoon I did indeed feel a bit brighter, but I had to work at it.

I remembered years ago a friend advising me when I had a problem, she said ‘It’s just a bump in the road’, it seemed apt that I remembered it today.

So my lovely readers, if you have a bad day, and I sincerely hope you do not, remember tomorrow is new day, I can’t guarantee you will find a shiny penny, but I bet you will see a sign of some sort if you keep your eyes open!

Have a wonderful and blessed week xx

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A Wonderful Twist Of Fate.

My lovely Husband and I have been together for 23 years, married for almost 20 years, but sadly we were not able to have children of our own.  Isn’t life funny how things can turn out though.  Almost 15 years ago I took a job as a Personal Assistant to a very decent man who ran several companies,  and I also became his wife’s assistant along the way.  They are a lovely family with 3 daughters, at the time I took the job the girls were very young, 8, 6 and 3 years old.  Over the years I became very involved with the girls, I would do school runs, take them to after school activities etc…   Although their parents are very wealthy, they didn’t spoil the children, which has made for very lovely young ladies all these years later.

I have such wonderful memories, I was lucky enough to go to their French villa many summers to look after the girls for a week, we had such lovely times.  I made up lots of fun activities, from table tennis competitions to water polo and we even made a short movie, well a funny little 5 minute clip, such a funny story…… I found one of those pool floats that looks like a noodle, it was broken, the outside was a peach colour and the inside was reddish, I made the girls laugh when I said it looked like an arm in half, so we came up with the idea of making a scene, similar to the movie Jaws, the youngest girl got in the pool and pretended to wrestle the inflatable crocodile, then stuck the broken noodle into the arm of her t-shirt and waved it around screaming! well I don’t know how we made the clip for laughing, I was crying.  One of the older sisters did a bit of clever editing, put music to it and titles and loaded it on You Tube, that was at least 12 years ago and I still smile when I think of the fun we had making it!.

I used to be up first in the morning, so I would go down to the bakery for fresh bread and croissants, I would also buy the girls a beautiful little cake each, because every evening after dinner we would settle down in front of the TV and wade our way through whichever box set they wanted, I seem to remember one year we did the entire X-Men movie series, one each night!

Some evenings we would go into the town, a typical pretty french place with cobbled streets and market stalls, I would buy them Italian ice creams as we wandered about, looking in the pretty shops etc…

So you see, I couldn’t have children of my own, but fate put me in the path of these wonderful people, who so very generously let me take part in their children’s lives, now those children are all grown up but I still see them very often and they call me their second Mum, how lucky am I !

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I recently read this story and I wanted to pass it on, it was so touching and beautiful, I thought you all might like it.  I don’t know who the author is unfortunately.  So here you go:

Our 14-year-old dog Abbey died last month. The day after she passed away my 4-year-old daughter Meredith was crying and talking about how much she missed Abbey. She asked if we could write a letter to God so that when Abbey got to heaven, God would recognize her.  I told her that I thought we could so she dictated these words:

Dear God,

Will you please take care of my dog?  She died yesterday and is with you in heaven.  I miss her very much.  I am happy that you let me have her as my dog even though she got sick.  I hope you will play with her, she likes to swim and play with balls.  I am sending a picture of her so when you see her you will know that she is my dog.  I really miss her.

Love Meredith x x x

We put the letter in an envelope with a picture of Abbey and Meredith and addressed it to God/Heaven.  We put our return address on it.  Then Meredith pasted several stamps on the front of the envelope because she said it would take lots of stamps to get the letter all the way to heaven.  That afternoon she dropped it into the letterbox at the post office. A few days later, she asked if God had received the letter yet?  I told her that I thought he had.  Yesterday, there was a package wrapped in gold paper on our front porch addressed, ‘To Meredith’ in an unfamiliar hand.  Meredith opened it.  Inside there was a book by Mr. Rogers called ‘When a Pet Dies.’  Taped to the inside front cover was the letter we had written to God in its opened envelope, on the opposite page was the picture of Abbey & Meredith and this note:

Dear Meredith,

Abbey arrived safely in heaven.  Having the picture was a big help and I recognized her right away.  Abbey isn’t sick anymore, her spirit is here with me just like it stays in your heart.  Abbey loved being your dog.  Since we don’t need our bodies in heaven, I don’t have any pockets to keep your picture in, so I am sending it back to you in this little book for you to keep and have something to remember Abbey by.  Thank you for the beautiful letter and thank your mother for helping you write it and sending it to me.  What a wonderful mother you have, I picked her especially for you.  I send my blessings every day and remember that I love you very much. By the way, I’m easy to find, I am wherever there is love.

Love God xxx

 

I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I did, there are some wonderful and kind people in this world, we must never lose sight of that.

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My Amazing Friend

I have a very dear friend of many years, almost thirty I would say.  Last night she called me, I was making dinner, a stir fry, so I asked if I could call her back afterwards and checked it was nothing urgent (she has breast cancer and is on oral chemo tablets) she said it was just about meeting for lunch and no hurry.  After dinner I called her back, she told me that last week she suffered a heart attack, caused by the medication she was on, she was rushed to hospital and a stent was put in to clear the blockage.  I was so shocked, I just couldn’t believe it.  She didn’t even know she had suffered a heart attack until the paramedic told her, she thought she had a bit of a winter bug!.  She assured me she was doing well and although she could not drive for a month, she was staying with her Mum, who is currently undergoing chemo for breast cancer also.

I did tell her off for saying it wasn’t urgent when she called and informed her that I would definitely have turned off the stir fry, she just laughed.  She is a totally amazing and upbeat person, despite all she has been through in the last few years and she is only fifty years old.

I must admit I had been a little out of sorts this week, this news made me realise how very lucky I am, I do count my blessings every day and rightly so.  But I always say a little prayer every night for my friend and her Mum, so I was a bit cross when I looked out at the stars last night before bed, I told them off for not listening to me.

There are some really awful people in this world, we live next to one of them (see my blog on Vile Vera) but nothing ever seems to happen to them, but my lovely, kind and sweet natured, happy friend has all this to deal with and she NEVER complains, she keeps positive ALL the time, last night she told me not to worry, she was going to be around a lot longer yet.

So when you look up at the stars in the sky tonight, please say a little prayer for her, she really deserves it.

Thank you my lovely readers. xxxx

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