Hello! It’s been quite while since I posted, no reason really, I went on vacation in October and since then life has just been so busy! now Christmas is coming, lots of parties and fun to be had! I do have things I want to tell you about, but they are, well …, not exciting really and I would hate to bore you!
However, one thing that has caused me great upset recently is that a dear friend of mines Husband has become ‘mysteriously’ unwell. At first he had some health issues, he is 74 years old, but not life threatening issues, fixable stuff. He and his wife are generally fit and well, very active on the social scene and a lot of fun to be around. Out of the blue she started saying to me he wasn’t doing well, I asked what the problem was, she told me he had a touch of glaucoma, but that was being attended to by the eye Doctor. She said he worried that his metal hip was leaking, which he had checked and was all clear, he needed to have his two front teeth permanently fixed as they had been smashed in a biking accident a few years prior and the temporary ones needed replacing with implants, all of which was in hand with surgery scheduled within the month. So I couldn’t seem to get to the route of the problem, she just kept saying ‘he’s not right’. My husband and I are great friends with the family, having spent Christmases, birthday parties etc. with them all for many years now, yet a wall of silence seemed to be in place. Planned dinners were cancelled at the last minute, arrangements to meet fell through, he stopped going to work, going out, driving etc.. Having now visited with them, I think the poor man has had a nervous breakdown. Looking back the only issue he ever had was that he didn’t like one of the people he was in business with, in fact so deep seated was his loathing of this person that it bordered on absolute hatred of this persons business ethics and greed, he let it get to him, get under his skin, it became almost all he thought about, talked about, until in the end it tipped him over the edge. I know this person, he is not the Devil incarnate, my friend has built things up in his mind that aren’t really accurate, until he has convinced himself of wrong doing that doesn’t even exist, but no words can convince my friend of this, he has let his mind wander down a path full of false cracks and potholes, convincing himself of crimes that don’t even exist, and his obsession has affected deeply the balance of his mind.
Thankfully he is under the Doctors care and is on a course of pills to raise his serotonin levels, we hope he gets back to some kind of normality very soon. How delicate is the balance of the mind, he was the last man you would think this would happen to, kind, happy people, no money worries, minor health issues that are fixable, yet his personality has totally changed, almost disappeared, we are so very sad he has had to go through this, but I get two lessons from this, firstly, never let another person cause you to be so full of hatred, and secondly, mental health issues are nothing to be ashamed of, help is out there, just don’t wait too long before you ask for help.
Good health to you all my friends.